Tips for misbehavior

Experts suggest parents try these techniques when dealing with other people’s children.

If children squabble, help them work out their own solutions. “Too often, parents want to step in for their kids,” Parents can stop altercations, but let the kids make amends.

If parent is present but seemingly unaware of a child’s behavior, a casual “you might want to check on Billy” should prompt some action. Another approach is to state the facts.

Keep play dates short or open-ended. This helps prevent misbehavior that stems from children being overexcited or tired. One hour is plenty for many preschoolers. If kids simply aren’t getting along, the host should call the other parent to pick the child up; with the assurance they can try again another day.

Focus on safety and preventing property damage. Ignore the open mouth chewing. Remember kids might not break rules deliberately. What’s obliviously no-no to you might be acceptable in their home.

Give kids the benefits of the doubt. One mom was appalled when a child who just moved into the neighborhood walked into her house without knocking. It turned out he was accustomed to and open door policy with friend in his old neighborhood.

Reiterate important house rules to visitors, but focus on the positive. For example – at our house we sit on the couch instead of jumping on it or we only eat snacks at the table, not walking around on the carpet.

Choose neutral territory for a play date, such as a park or zoo.

Don’t judge, lets your second child be payback. Feel smug because your angel proves your parenting style is the best way? Wait until your second child turns out to be “spirited” and proves all your theories wrong.

If the other parent isn’t around to see a child’s misbehavior, be mostly truthful.